Love and Betrayal
Study Scripture: Matthew 26: 3-15, 20-25. 
Background Scripture:   Matthew 26: 1-75  

Lesson 1

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Key Verse

And as they did eat, he said, Verily I say unto you, that one of you shall betray me.
And they were exceeding sorrowful, and began every one of them to say unto him, Lord, is it I? 

Matthew 26:21-22.


INTRODUCTION

This lesson answers for us, one of the questions that has bedevilled the Church and believers , namely “ What is First Love ?”; something God obviously prizes.  It also addresses the question  of what is “True Love” in a believer, and how is it manifested. 

Jesus' comments about the action of the woman disciple named Mary, tells us that the action of this woman was a most wonderful thing, that is, it was behaviour with great intrinsic value.  In fact, it was so highly rated by Christ, that he eternally linked this action with his gospel.  Every where his gospel was preached or told, the story of what this woman did would also be preached and told.  

This implies clearly, that if the story of this woman’s action ceased to be talked about, then the gospel also would cease to be talked about. 

There then must be something remarkable in it, and we should pay close attention to this woman and her actions, and look at ourselves to see if we can learn something from this, and imitate her attitude and actions. 

Let us never forget the Jesus looks at things differently from the way that the world looks at things.  He is not fooled by glamour and glitter, but he rates things according to their value in the sight of God.  We should therefore observe Jour Lord to see what is most important for believers, and hopefully we will learn to focus properly, that is, focus on Him. 

The story is introduced to show the opposite extremes possible from professing believers in God, namely, the deepest of love and the deepest of betrayal.  

The time of this incident is also very instructive, as is the comment about the stage of Jesus' ministry and testimony. 

Matthew 26: 1 tells us that this was two days before the Feast of the Passover and the Feast of Unleavened Bread, two feasts that had begun at the time of the Exodus from Egypt.  The Passover was a time of God's great and gracious mercy to Israel, for God spared their firstborn when they obediently sprinkled the blood of a lamb without blemish on the doorposts and lintels of their homes, to mark them out as people of obedience and gratitude, with humility before God.  God's judgment thus “passed over” them when it fell on Egypt. 

The Feast of Unleavened Bread was instituted to remind Israel that their ancestors, before they left Egypt, they were to clean out their houses and remove all trace of leaven (yeast), for leaven was a symbol of sin.  This feast therefore stood before Israel to remind them, that they should search carefully for any sign of compromising with sin, and ruthlessly cleanse their life and their homes of even the tiniest of sin, for sin could spread and work silently and subtly, corrupting all of life. 

It was at this time that Jesus finished all that he had to say, he was no longer in the role of Prophet, Healer, or Teacher, and now began to prepare to enter his role of a Priest. 

He then reminded his disciples that the situation in Israel had so deteriorated, that after the coming Feast of the Passover he would be betrayed.

 

THE TEXT

Verse 3.  These were sad times. The religious leaders had no interest in what these Feasts meant.  They were not interested in searching their lives to see if there was any evidence of sin, or in humility thank God, who had graciously spared them from a death they had fully deserved. 

Here they were plotting to kill an innocent man, not paying any attention to the holiness of the Feast days, or the contradiction involved in killing the innocent during these special religious services.  They did not consider the feelings of God, nor were they worried about the fear of God.  

There had been many plots against the life of Jesus but this one was the most serious.  Now there was an assembly of the Chief Priests, the scribes, who are the Doctors of the law, and the elders of the people who were judges in civil matters. 

This meeting involved some of the people who sat in the great Sanhedrin council that governed all of the nation of Israel.  They met in the palace of the High Priest Caiaphas, a man who was at the centre of this wicked confederacy against Christ.

 

Verse 4-5.   We are not told the precise nature of the plot itself, but we do know that they clearly wanted nothing less than his blood. 

They did not want to be up front with their plan, but like most vile hypocrites met in secret, using subtlety to achieve their ends. Evil among professing believers always thrives in secret places, and uses the weapons of subtlety to achieve their satanic ends.  This has always been the case and will always be the case.  The enemies of God are never interested in the honour of God, the fear of God, cheerful obedience to His Word, or to matters of morality.  The enemies of God are only interested in their own ends and personal aggrandizement.  One writer says:

“ So cruel and bloody have been the designs on Christ's by his church’s enemies”. 

They were only afraid of the people, and that for their own safety, for if they seized and killed Jesus, they felt there would be an uproar among the people, who regarded Jesus as a Prophet, and some might even take up arms against them.

This was a strategic decision and had nothing to do with promoting the honour of God. 

They did not care about the fact that this event now coming was the culmination of the historic foreshadowing of the great Sacrifice of Redemption, when Christ our  ‘Passover’ would be sacrificed for men.

 

Verse 6.  This verse begins to describe a very important incident.  There Jesus was in Bethany, attending some function in the house of a man called Simon the Leper. Obviously this man had probably been cleansed from leprosy by Jesus, but the name “Leper” still stuck to him.  But he entertained Jesus, and Jesus was quite willing to be in his presence. 

One writer comments on this matter:

“ Though he was cleansed, yet he was called Simon the Leper. Those who are guilty of scandalous sins, will find that, though the sin be pardoned, the reproach will cleave to them, and will hardly be wiped away.”

 

Verse 7.   There is much argument about who this woman who came in to the feast was.  Though similar incidents are recorded in other Gospels the location of this event was quite specifically named. 

A woman brought in an alabaster box of a very highly prized, expensive perfume called ‘spikenard”, broke the box and while Jesus sat down eating, poured the ointment on Jesus' head. This was a powerful aromatic perfume and the odour would have filled the whole house creating a refreshing fragrance and unmistakable excitement and discussion.

 

Verse 8-9 tells us that this brought howls of indignation from the disciples. They murmured taking offence at her action, which they defined as a waste and an unwarranted extravagance. 

Though Jesus had been telling them of his coming crucifixion they still had the nerve to ask the question

“ To what purpose is this waste?”

 

Note carefully the bias in the question.  They had defined her action as a waste without any serious analysis. 

It is strange to think that these men could regard something done to Jesus as a waste, especially in view of his immediately preceding teachings. 

They then tried to give support to their bias by saying that it would have been better to have sold the perfume and given the money to the poor instead. 

Their words and their emotions betrayed their lack of understanding.  This was zeal for the poor, but it was not according to knowledge.  They were not prepared to give the woman the benefit of the doubt, and accept that even though she might be over doing it, she might have wanted to show great love for their Master. 

Obviously things directly done to Jesus Christ cannot be thought of as a ‘waste’, and disciples should have known better.  

From our present situation, we ought to be careful in how we judge things that are spent in the service of Christ or in the work of piety.  This is not to say that there is no such thing as waste and extravagance, for in the history of the Church, we see the church spending fabulous sums extracted from the poor to build cathedrals and palaces, which the poor were hardly ever able to enjoy. 

We too should be aware that emotion and even indignation aimed at achieving what we think is correct is not necessarily so, and might even be against the wishes of God. 

In this case we are told by John that the charge was led by Judas, who was not at all interested in the poor, but because he was a thief, he wanted the large sum of money that the perfume represented to come under his control. 

This of course reflects badly on the ‘Eleven’, for they had no indication of his true character, and were blind to his real purposes and intentions.  They were on the wrong side on this occasion. 

Again we note that statements by professing believers must be interpreted in the light of their character.  It is not everything that sounds good and attractive, is in fact good and attractive.  That is why we insist that people confine their opinions to the path laid out by the Word of God.

 

Verse 10.    Jesus immediately rebuked them, and made it abundantly clear that what she did was a “good work” upon him.

 

Clearly they were unaware of the spiritual revolution that lay at the heart of Jesus’ teaching. They certainly did not understand the plan of God, and had obviously interpreted his teachings in their personal framework of messianic expectation.

 

Again we have an example where the women that were around Jesus were the most sensitive, helpful, and honourable of his servants.  They put the men around Jesus to shame.

 

Clearly she loved Jesus and gave him a beautiful gift to reflect her gratitude and her love.  The woman, who is thought to be Mary, obviously believed Jesus when he said he was going to die.  The disciples, who also loved Jesus, refused to believe him, because they might have been thinking about the empire that the Messiah would build and their position in it.

 

Verse 11.   Jesus then dealt with this issue of the poor, putting it in its proper perspective.  He made it clear that there would always be poor people around, and therefore there would be continued opportunities to do good to them. On the other hand, there were other opportunities to do good which came on rare occasions, and which demanded attention and priority over those acts of good that were constantly there. 

In this case the bodily presence of Christ was not something that would be always there, and since he would have to go away, special acts of devotion to him were called for. 

In addition, generosity, in the form of some acts of kindness, should not be done in order to get applause, so that people would think that you're doing the right thing. 

Therefore, our acts must be determined by the guidance of the Spirit, and if we follow the Spirit we will see that God prefers some specific things to be done at specific times over other ‘ good things’.  The plan of God and the wishes of God do not often follow a rigid formula that we think we have a handle on.

 

Verse 12.   In this case Jesus said, she was doing something that had deep mystical significance, for she did it for his burial. 

Some think that the woman understood Christ's frequent teachings on his death and sufferings better than the other disciples. 

Jesus certainly seems to indicate that her action was an anointing, an embalming prior to his burial, whether we think it was specifically intended are not.  He knew that after his death there would be no time for proper embalming of his body, for by the time the women would have come to do that, he would have triumphed over death and would have been resurrected. 

Her act of kindness therefore was very reasonable and made a great deal of sense.  It could never be considered a waste.

 

AN ACT OF FIRST LOVE

Let us examine her actions in some detail and see why Jesus so highly commended her.  We should learn a great deal about our relationship to Christ from her actions. 

Note that the heart of the woman, which we will call Mary, had been touched by Jesus and therefore this was an impressive and expressive impulse of a heart of love, without the contamination of calculating whether it was her duty or not, or whether it cost a lot or not. 

Because of her heart of obedience and love, she did not calculate the cost, but in simple love, took the most precious thing she could find and poured it on his head.  This was an act of the heart and not of calculation. 

This was first love.  

Her heart had been renewed.  She was responding exactly like that of a child who loved unconditionally and without any form or pretence. 

We nowadays don't generally behave like that.  When our heart tells us to do something for Christ, we stop to think whether someone had done such a thing before, whether others would approve or not, whether it would  be considered reasonable by our peers, and whether it was safe for us to do it.  We first try to see if the act we are thinking about fitted in with our duty. 

Clearly then we do not act out of the divine impulse of a heart fully consecrated to Jesus.  We therefore do not understand the heights and depth of the love of this woman. 

We know that Jesus never counted the cost but gave everything he had to save us.  In Jerusalem the Apostles went where they were sent without quibbling.  Others even sold what they had and distributed to the poor.  

But in contrast many of us are content with just doing the routine things and performing our formal religious duties.  Note that this is not “first love” nor even “ true love”. 

A second matter that we should note is that this woman did something purely for Christ, directly for him, which he could not give away to someone else, but which belonged to him alone. 

Do we do things purely and directly for the sake of Christ? 

There is a difference between preaching to help your fellow men, which is good, helping the poor, which is good, teaching a class in church to help the young, which is good, and doing something focusing totally on doing it “for him”. 

For when we begin to think that we are doing acts of good for the church, the Sabbath School, our fellow men, the poor, or for the sake of the children rather than for the sake of Christ, that is, exclusively for Him, we cannot truly say we have obeyed Him in all respects. 

That is why people balk at doing good because they do not understand that they should be concentrating on doing things for Him, and if they do not do things for Him, exclusively, they cannot expect him to be happy with them. 

This woman wanted to give Jesus something directly.

We should note this comment by one writer:

“ You will do your acts in religion far better, if you can cultivate always the desire to do that all for Christ.  Oh!  To preach for Christ!  What precious work that is!  When the mind is fatigued and the body weary, this will make a man strong to labour and to suffer too, if he hears the whisper,  “ Go and do it for thy Master's sake.”  Oh!  To visit the sick for Christ, and distribute to the poor for his sake!  This will make toil light; self-denial will become a pleasure, it will cease to be self-denial altogether, if we remember that we are doing it for him!  But we do not now as this woman did.  I fear or love is but faint and cold”

 

Let us also note that what she did was quite extraordinary, for she loved so much that she did something which would lead others to call her mad, foolish, and wasteful.  She followed the promptings of the Spirit, and brought a blessing to the Saviour. 

Jesus certainly deserved to be given this extraordinary treatment, but in many cases he does not receive that kind of treatment.  People seem to reserve their ardent affection, devoted service and loyalty to the impostors of the world, and the leaders of cults. 

The followers of Christ prefer not to be called fanatics or eccentric, and seek a respectable name. 

They are ashamed of the Master who bore the stripes for them, and forget what he gave up to suffer for them. 

We really need believers to show extraordinary affection for Christ, such as the passionate devotion and enthusiasm that this woman showed in service. 

When we think about what Christ has done for us, can we say that there is no need for this kind of service?  

Note that Jesus said she had done a good work “Upon me”. Actually, work for the poor is good but there is no better kind of work than work done “on Christ”. 

Sometime the Spirit leads us to do things which are more significant than we know or are aware of, for in the case of this woman, there was probably more in her act than she knew. 

Let us therefore examine ourselves to make sure that the flame of love for Christ still burns in our heart, and that we do not forget that we should be doing things for our Master.

 

Verse 13.  No wonder then that Jesus stated that this remarkable act of faith and love would never be forgotten, and that all men throughout the ages would learn of this woman and what she did, because of her faith and simple love.

 

Verse 14-15.  This great act of kindness to Christ was immediately followed by the greatest act of unkindness or betrayal. 

Among the brethren there are always the faithful friends, as well as the false, the pretenders and the hypocrites. 

One writer comments:

“ There are those, even among Christ's followers, that are worse than anyone can imagine them to be, and want nothing but opportunity to show it.”

 

THE BETRAYER

Let us to first look at the context of Jesus celebrating the Passover with his disciples.  The Passover plot was in full swing for some time and Jesus’ enemies were ready.  The disciples were arguing and fighting among themselves about who was the greatest and who would have the most honour in the Kingdom of Jesus.  Judas of course was at the Passover with Jesus. 

This must have been a very difficult time for Jesus and his humanity was showing.  He knew his death and suffering was imminent.  He also knew that his arrest, suffering and death would be aided and abetted by the betrayer Judas, who was right there with him.  But he never hinted to the disciples that he knew that Judas would betray him. 

There was no sign of resentment in Jesus toward Judas, nor one little touch of bitterness.  He seemed to love Judas before he kept reaching out to him, warning him about the consequences of what he would be soon doing. 

Jesus was surrounded not only with betrayal, but with pride which dominated his closest friends, and their appalling ignorance of what was happening around them. 

John tells us that Jesus was troubled in Spirit, that is he was agitated, grieved, and deeply hurt. 

The traitor was Judas, and there is no hint in Scripture that he was misguided in a ‘good’ way, or that his motives were honourable.  The Bible simply tells us that his motive was money. 

Jesus knew that there was increasing greed in Judas, changing him from the dedicated follower with a reputation for honesty which led to him being chosen as treasurer for the group.  But over time covetousness, greed and a hunger for the world began to motivate Judas. 

Though he was an intimate of Christ and had every reason to love him and be true to him, he nevertheless betrayed him.  There was no love or gratitude. 

Note that Judas went to the Chief Priests.  They did not approach him or try to make a deal with him, for they could not imagine that one of Christ disciples would be so false.  These rulers knew that their conspiracy had run into a brick wall, for they could not arrest him publicly, and would not be able to find him privately given the over two million faithful Jews that were in the city and its environs.  

They could go no further except when the Devil would step in to help them.  The Devil now had to find a traitor disciple that would betray Christ. 

Judas knew what the movements of Christ would be, and so he was the ideal person to deliver Christ to them at a convenient time and place so that they would be no uproar.

 

Verse 20-21.  Here we begin a section where Jesus was prepared to forgive even Judas, but he refused to accept the forgiveness of his sins, which of course would involve in turning around and following the will of God. 

There is resistance to changing our ways in all of us, but let us note that we must not be resistant to receiving this gift of forgiveness, for if we do, we will not be found acceptable to God. 

Jesus had given his disciples instructions for this celebration of the Passover and the Feast of Unleavened Bread.  Preparation had been made and the twelve disciples sat down with Jesus. 

It was evening time, for that was the time when the Passover meal would be eaten. John records that Judas was given a place of honour, only John seated on the other side could hear what Jesus would say to him. This would be a strange meal for as they ate, Jesus began to talk about betrayal, telling the group that one of them would betray him.  This was enough to spoil their appetite.

 

Verse 22.   All the disciples felt extremely terrible and one by one began to question whether he was referring to them. 

It might have been that they were unsure of themselves and very grieved by the possibility that Jesus might consider one of them as a traitor.  They knew that Jesus knew the hearts of men and they probably could never have dreamed that there could be a traitor among his closest friends, men who had been given the power to heal, cast out demons, and perform mighty acts of power. 

Though they probably did not like the idea of taking up the Cross, and might have experienced temptation brought by Satan to deny the specific route that Jesus had chosen, they were grieved at the thought. They might have remembered that they had very recently been quarrelling among themselves, as to who would be the greatest in the Kingdom, and therefore they might have thought that they were all suspect in the eyes of Jesus. The language indicates that they were becoming very despondent.

 

Verse 23.  Jesus' response obviously did not rule out anyone, for all of them would have been dipping their bread into the common dish.  He probably was referring to Psalm 41:9, indicating that this was the fulfillment of that prophecy about betrayal by one that was a close friend and a special friend, but who was not a true friend but an imitator. 

The thought that anyone sharing in a highly valued and special meal such as a Passover meal would be planning such a betrayal, would be absolutely shocking to the disciples.  This kind of crime Jesus was speaking about would be a most heinous and unspeakable act.

 

Verse 24.  Jesus then, without specifically identifying the betrayer, went on to point out that the Scriptures had prophesied that the Son of Man would be betrayed and would suffer. 

He then added a warning which Judas would not miss, for he was giving Judas every opportunity to hear about the fate of the one who would betray him. 

He pronounced a most serious woe on the betrayer, for this was a most horrible sin, with terrible and unimaginable consequences for the traitor.  Its as if Jesus was offering Judas an opportunity to repent and to prove himself to be a true friend.

 

Verse 25.  Despite all this Judas refused to confess, responding “Master is it  I”. He could have asked for forgiveness and accepted this from Jesus, but he continued to imitate friendship. 

This of course reminds us that often we do not face the truth about ourselves, and refuse to acknowledge our personal sins and our disobedience to the commandment of God.  We look at God in the face and cover up our sins, behaving as if we do not understand its implications.

 

CONCLUSION

God wants simple unadulterated love.  The focus must be on him alone.  Let us accept the warning of Phil. 3:18-19 and turn away from false professions. For many walk, of whom I have told you often, and now tell you even weeping, that they are the enemies of the cross of Christ: hose end is destruction, whose God is their belly, and whose glory is in their shame, who mind earthly things.